Thursday, February 10, 2011

Jumping in with both feet

What's Stopping You?

Yesterday's post was pertaining to my trying to decide how I want to move forward with my blogging identity. In response to that post, a woman named Karen wrote to me stating that while she came for the reviews, she stayed to witness my evolutionary process because she was in a similar position in life- wanting to move away from a 9-5.

My role model was a good friend who interestingly enough, worked his whole life to achieve his dream of being a professional (read "rock star") musician only to abandon it when he realized that that life style was no longer serving his higher good. I looked at that and said, "If this person could walk away from something he actually wanted in his life, then I surely can let go of things I don't want in mine."

What I've come to learn, is that this evolutionary process begins with you taking stock of what you are holding on to. This means an actual inventory of not only physical possessions, but of your core beliefs, of relationships, of habits, of patterns..... Knowing all along that these things never define who you are at your core - at your core you are perfect - a helpful reminder which allows you to release any judgments against yourself, and it is through this process we can move through life peeling back any unhelpful layers (of habits, beliefs, etc.) to get closer to our truest selves. So many people walk around dragging such heavy baggage from generations past... never realizing that once we become adults that we have the ability to discern what we want in our lives and what we don't and that we are not disrespecting those who came before us if we choose a different religion or lifestyle or political affiliation.....

The decision to jump on the path of personal transformation can be daunting - and once you are on it, the challenges never stop. You'll be tweaking and letting go and adopting new beliefs till the end of days but you will have chosen to LIVE LIFE EVERYDAY rather than simply exist. It's like any other relationship in your life in that it takes conscious thought and energy to maintain it to the level of your desire.

When people talk to me about wanting to make life changes, I always say the same thing. I ask them to consider, "What's the worst that can happen?" If you can answer that question and know that you will be fine no matter what - that you have the wherewithal to succeed even should the going gets rough, then I say take the risk and live your life on your terms because YOU are in charge of creating your own reality.

9 comments:

Sam said...

The third paragraph is exactly what I've been learning recently. I couldn't have put it to words so precisely! You just summed it up and made it much more easier to understand. Its so hard to peel off all those habits that takes up all your time without achieving anything.

My main problem is getting hooked on more and more TV shows all the time, and unnecessary browsing on the web. Its so completely useless. If you are losing 2-3 hours a day to TV and movies then you can only blame yourself for it. Owning a phone with so many bells and whistles don't help either. I'm sure a lot of people have the same problem these days. Gadgets and electronic media full of junk news are killing all our time. I have to learn how to give up most of all that without feeling like being left behind.

JoniB said...

I too, like Karen said, came for the reviews but stayed because of YOU! I started to work on art because of your leadership. I started to take a serious look at myself, my views, my whole outlook because you gave me the permission to do so.

I'll follow you to your next project, too. Just let us know where to find you and we will be there. Besides, you'll develop a whole new readership that will benefit from your vision.

B2-kun said...

Got the feeling that this might be pretty deep stuff that I might have to reread later. Minor edit note, for I suspect you meant to write: "LIVE LIFE EVEREYDAY rather than simply exist". Cheers.

Something Different said...

I wish you luck with whatever blogger identity you pursue next. Thanks for putting yourself out there and writing so freely. It's refreshing.

Biffybeans said...

Thank you Sam, I'm glad you found something that hit home for you with this piece. I am the same way with TV & the web. Wasted time that I will never get back. But at the end of the day, WE make these choices and WE have the power to change what we do not want in our lives. Sometimes it's a struggle but I do my best to at least stay aware....

Biffybeans said...

Joni, much thanks. Your kind words are greatly appreciated. And I'm happy to hear that you are making art on your own! Yaaay! Keep going!

Biffybeans said...

Something Different - Thank you for seeing what you see in my writing. :o)

La Fleur said...

I'm going to print this and put it on my wall. For the entire month of February, I have been coming to terms with this issue. Yesterday, I believe I surrendered. I surrendered to being me, living the life I want and going after my dreams. I've been suppressing myself for so long. I was afraid to live. Thank you so much for your post. Claudia

Biffybeans said...

Claudia - you rock! Thank you and go go go!

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